We heard about the book on Oprah, read the book begrudgingly, and maybe even saw the movie. It seems as though it’s only fitting that we give a little equal opportunity advice to our relational counterparts. Rather than a broadbrushed “She Just Can’t Stand You,” let’s propose a “She’s Just Not That Impressed by You” list.

If your hairstylist is getting you down, learning the proper way to communicate with her is key to leaving the salon with a style that works for you. This guide will show you the do’s and dont’s of getting a haircut and everything you need to know before you sit down in the stylist’s chair.